The "Feel It" process
The “Feel It” process is a simple, yet very powerful tool that can transmute any negative emotion. By applying this process persistently, you can change how you feel about virtually anything and ultimately become the person you would love to be.
“Feel It” has deep roots which include Buddhist teachings around leaning in as well as more recent teachings around Emotional Release as taught in “The Sedona Method” and “Letting Go.”
Feeling in the world today
Today most people live in their heads and seldom connect with how they feel. We have learnt to suppress our emotions, to ignore them completely or to push them down with multiple different
Many of us have even been trained to either; “be a man”, put a brave face on things or keep a stiff upper lip all of which deny how we really feel.
Starting to feel again
The “Feel It” process will teach you to start to notice and then to fully feel your negative emotions. The benefit of “feel it” is that just by fully feeling your emotions they will change and eventually dissipate completely.
Just by starting to practice it for a short time you will realise this to be true.
With “Feel It” you will quickly start to think of negative emotions as a great gift because they are the signposts to feeling good.
Most things can be changed in minutes. Deeper, bigger patterns can take longer up to and including hours, days, months or even years but working on and feeling even these issues need not take over your life. With practice, you will get used to feeling things in the background as you go about your day.
Moreover, these patterns are already affecting your life whether you are aware of them or not. They are the hidden handicaps that we all have that stop us doing or being what we want. They are our fears, doubts and insecurities. They are our negative beliefs, lack of self-worth and conditioning.
How to apply the “Feel It” process
Firstly, you need a negative emotion to work with. This can be as and when something arises or you are triggered or you can prompt something to come up by asking yourself how you feel about something or a past event.
Name the emotion by finishing the sentence “I feel…”
Then ask yourself on a scale of 0 to 10 how intense the feeling is at the start and then as you feel it check in every few minutes to see it reducing until eventually you reach 0.
Whilst there can be just one layer often there are multiple layers that need to be felt through to completely dissolve the issue.
Anything up to 5 or 6 layers is fairly common. An example of this would be:
Let’s say something someone has said to you was the triggering issue and it made you feel angry. 9 out of 10 angry. You work through the feeling of anger by simply allowing yourself to feel it until eventually it becomes a 0 out of 10 checking as you go.
Your only job is to really feel how you feel. You are the observer and crucially the feeler of the emotion. You are not trying to change anything or make anything happen. Just by feeling it it will naturally start to change.
Once you have cleared each level you ask yourself how do I feel about that person / what they said now.
Let’s say that having asked that question you realise you feel stressed at 5/10. As before work through that layer until you reach 0/10.
Repeat until you feel totally fine about that person / what they did.
That is the process. It is so simple that it almost seems to good to be true but if you work with it you will quickly see how powerful it is.
Try it now with something very gentle. Don’t go straight for how the ex who broke your heart made you feel! If nothing dramatic is going on in your life right now maybe just check in and ask yourself how do I feel right now? Then feel that until it dissipates.
You are re-learning how to feel. If it feels too much you can simply stop and try something gentler as you build up your confidence.
Unusual “Feel It” emotions and exceptions
Tiredness, numbness, feeling nothing and confusion should be treated as emotions in their own right by feeling them also. They are normally hiding another emotion below them which you can subsequently also work through.
Sometimes when the emotions feel overwhelming you may experience such strong resistance that you can’t even bring yourself to “Feel It”. Those times are often when you need it most! If you experience this feel the resistance itself until it clears and then work through any other layers as they reveal themselves.