The "feel it" process
The “feel it” process is a simple, yet amazingly powerful tool that can transmute any negative emotion. It is easy to use and you can apply it real time in any situation or when thinking about something that happened to you in the past.
With “feel it” you will even start to think of negative emotions as a great gift because they are the signposts to feeling good.
Today most people live in their heads and seldom connect with how they feel. We have learnt to suppress our emotions, to push them down or ignore them completely. Many of us have even been trained to either; “be a man”, put a brave face on things or keep a stiff upper lip all of which deny how we really feel.
The “feel it” process will teach you to notice and then to fully feel your negative emotions. The benefit of “feel it” is that just by fully feeling your emotions they will change and eventually dissipate completely.
Most things can be changed in minutes. Deeper, bigger patterns can take longer up to and including hours, days, months or even years but working on and feeling even these issues need not take over your life. With practice, you will get used to feeling things in the background as you go about your day.
Moreover, these patterns are already affecting your life whether you are aware of them or not. They are the hidden handicaps that we all have that stop us doing or being what we want. They are our fears, doubts and insecurities. They are our negative beliefs, lack of self-worth and conditioning.
The good news is that applying this process combined with persistent effort you can change virtually anything. I have seen people including myself change dramatically using this process.
How to apply the “feel it” process
Firstly, you need a negative emotion to work with. This can be as and when something arises or you are triggered or you can prompt something to come up by asking yourself how you feel about a certain situation.
Name the emotion by finishing the sentence “I feel…”
Then ask yourself on a scale of 0 to 10 how intense the feeling is at the start and then as you feel it check in every few minutes to see it reducing until eventually you reach 0.
Whilst there can be just one layer often there are multiple layers that need to be felt through to completely dissolve the issue.
Anything up to 5 or 6 layers is fairly common. An example of this would be:
Let’s say something someone has said to you was the triggering issue and it made you feel angry. 9 out of 10 angry. You work through the feeling of anger by simply allowing yourself to feel it until eventually it becomes a 0 out of 10 checking as you go.
Your only job is to really feel how you feel. You are the observer and crucially the feeler of the emotion. You are not trying to change anything or make anything happen. Just by feeling it it will naturally start to change.
Once you have cleared each level you ask yourself how do I feel about that person / what they said now.
Let’s say that having asked that question you realise you feel stressed at 5/10. As before work through that layer until you reach 0/10.
Repeat until you feel totally fine about that person / what they did.
That is the process. It is so simple that it almost seems to good to be true but if you work with it you will quickly see how powerful it is.
Try it now with something very gentle such as how you feel about having to get up early to go to work.
Don’t go straight for how angry your ex makes you feel! Start small and play with it.
You are just re-learning how to feel. If it feels too much you can simply stop and try something gentler as you build up your confidence.
Tiredness, numbness, nothingness and confusion should all be treated as emotions in their own right and worked through also using the "feel it" process. For example, if you feel nothing then allow yourself to fully feel nothing until that emotion, like all other emotions, dissipates.